Too much wondering!

A really interesting conversation with an old work colleague this morning threw up the age old question... are we better off not dreaming?

I'm not nearly as sure as i used to be on this one, my view a few years ago was that to stop dreaming was to stop growing and to stop living, but i am coming round to the view that you can overdo anything, and that this view is very cosy, but sets us up for a life of constant disapointment.

I had a conversation with my teenage daughter the other day that was about always wanting more, she'd like a bigger house, and a bigger car, and a bigger everything, and we chatted about how there will always be someone with a bigger one than you....and that brought me back to Alain De Button's book "status anxiety" and why people are suffering because of this incessant societal pressure for bigger, better, more. De Button's philosophical effort is miles ahead of Oliver James's "affluenza" which attempts to take on this issue from a psychological and sociological viewpoint.

Too many big words........ the deal is that we are worried all the time about keeping on the treadmill and how well we are doing, and the only solution we are presented with is to sell up and buy a cottage in Leitrim, grow our own nettles and drop out of society..... this way you have to either be a rat in the rat race or if you leave you have to renounce all rats and become self sufficient.

Surely to God there's more to it than that.....there has to be a middle ground...a place where we can participate in life without the constant nagging fear that we are not enough, without having to move to a place outside Mohill..... oh it's not easy being a wonderer!