This blog started out as an opportunity for me to throw my thoughts out on paper (virtual) and have some structured way of keeping me in touch with myself, I know that some people have a wee look every now and then and thats ok too, but untimately it helps me to straighten out the spagetti in my head and bring a bit of clarity to my thinking. I want today to be about some of the stuff i have learned over the last two years of training and coaching with hundreds of people and lots of organisations and businesses.
1. There is no such thing as a perfect life.....its just bollix, there is no such thing as a life without pain and expecting one is just plain stupid, sure there are ways of managing the chaos that is our lives, but to expect that we can sail seamlessly through it is just crap..... life is a lot like the weather, sunny spells, rainy windy days, the odd heatwave and the odd hurricane. The most important thing is to keep going and to try to keep learning.
2. Most people have not got a fecking clue, they dont know how to enjoy sunny days, they dont know what to wear in the rain....as billy connolly once said...theres no such thing as bad weather, theres only the wrong clothes, they keep expecting the heatwave to break and they wont evacuate and hide during the bloody hurricanes.
3. Most businesses are run on a wing and a prayer (including this one although it is improving) Businesses are started and either grow or die....if they die they are not businesses anymore...if they grow they grow upwards, outwards, inwards, anywards without any real plans or thoughts. most businesses have no marketing plans, no sales plans, no defined management structures (with real accountability) no Human Relations structures....they are basically just all over the place... the ones that survive through all this have 3 things, decent products (which could be better) some customers (which could be more and more lucrative) and the drive and energy of owners who are mainly still thrashing around in the semi darkness but have becme good enough at it to make a good living from it (I am one of those myself too).
4. Nothing stays the same! Thurber said "most men lives lives of quiet desperation, others not so quiet" he was dead right...people who do the same ol same ol all the time claim to have lives of contented happiness....its not true.....there is a huge degree of frustration in everyone of lost opportunities and the only way to get rid of that is to immerse yourself in something new, and do it often.
5. Physical exercise is good for you. People who exercise and mind thier bodies are a million times happier that people who dont......period.
6. Everybody is afraid. everybody......and the only way to get rid of it is to keep taking on the things you are afraid of........FEAR has to acronyms (i am not a big fan of acronyms but i like this one)
Face Everything And Recover
or
Fuck Everything And Run
even if you fail you will feel a lot better about facing it.....at least you will have had a shot.
7. There is a huge hunger out there within people for survival, for ways to cope with the chaos and stress that is modern living....you can see it being avoided everywhere by the increases in alcohol consumption, drug use, workaholism and many other forms of avoidance (or Fucking everything and running like hell)
I know people are searching like hell for ways of surviving and coping with the whole bloody thing.........perhaps I can find a way to help.
Finally if any of this makes sense to you.....please send a link on to a friend.
