Seems like bloody years since i updated this blog, am in Cork, was in Dublin all last week, am in Galway later this week, and then my friends it's Christmas, and during Christmas, i fully intend to do sweet FA.
I'm hugely enjoying my work at the moment, coaching (which i had sometimes began to doubt) is an amazing process, and the insights and tweaks we are getting are just wonderful.
I've also discovered something amazing, i'm currently calling it the "polar oposite defence" and i think it's the most important thing i have dicovered since i began coaching seriously 4 years ago. The polar opposite defence basically means running to the very opposite of the behaviour challenged in order to defer or avoid making the necessary changes.
For example, if it emerges that the issue someone has centres around the fact that they are over protective of information, the coachee will often say.. "oh i suppose i should be running around the place letting everyone know what's going on like some kind of town crier"
This constant running to the very opposite of the behaviour in order to avoid taking the necessary action to move a notch or two in that direction is used as a justification of the current behaviour and keeps the person stuck with the same challenges they presented with, so someone who's issue is a desire to control everything will say... "oh so i should let them all run riot then should i?" when what might work is giving them a bit more freedom and then seeing how it al works out... but it's easier to justify the current position and do nothing.
i'm going to use some time at christmas to develop this idea and discover how people can move things a notch or two and continue with experimentation all life long rather than taking a strong position and justifying it.
so much for sweet FA.
Happy Christmas.
