Dealing with other people I used to think "what you see is what you get" but I now know that everybody has "secrets" everybody has a dark side and everybody is less than honest (self preservation anyone?) with other people and even with themselves.
It's like we all have this editing suite in our heads where we make judgements on what to present to people. There is no such thing as total honesty, it's a stupid aspiration, and those who aspire towards it will drive themselves mental in their chasing of an impossible dream.
I trust no one, I know that if the stakes are high enough that everyone will fight to protect themselves, put anyone in a corner and they will fight to protect themselves.
The reason that desperate housewives was such a success (apart from the fact that there are some serious babes in it) is that everyone can identify with it, everybody has this alternate universe running in thier heads, and everybody knows that there is conflict between thier "internal" world and the external world that gets presented to everyone else.
Trying to get the two of these in tandem will definately drive you nuts,
Enjoy your secrets. I know I love mine.
